How to be your own bestie

Bestie  
noun.  Your favourite person in the world. The one who always looks out for you.


Are you a good best friend?  What about to yourself?  

So often we dish out wonderful advice to our friends, good advice, carefully considered based on all the perspectives we can see in their situation, all with the intent of making them the happiest.  It’s not stuff we just think up spontaneously, we mull the situation over then spend time analysing it, genuinely trying to determine what would really be best for them and their personal growth.

But what happens when it comes to making our own decisions?  Where is the same level of applied consideration and focus on what’s best for us in the long run, what will truly make us happy?  All of a sudden that bestie has left the building.

When we look at our own situations and try to plan, if we bother to plan, how objective are we?   Do we take the time to analyse what we know makes us really happy?  Do we imagine life at eighty or ninety, reflecting back on the life choices that made us happiest, that brought us the most joy and then act on that?  Or do we fall habitually into ‘should’ mode, choosing what’s safe, easy, and won’t make too many ripples?

Isn’t it time we chose to nurture and care for ourselves with as much thought and consideration as we give others?  

In every decision you make for yourself, you need to be your own bestie.  Whether it’s what to eat for breakfast, buying new clothes, whether to leave a dead end job, take that trip of a lifetime, or date that guy you’re not quite sure about, with each decision you need to step back and look at the big picture - from the outside in.

Start by imagining it’s not about you, just someone you know a lot about, then try to look at the situation symbolically.  Lift yourself out of today and view it as a page or chapter in your life story.  Ask what part it plays in your overall journey, and what path holds the most potential for your spiritual growth. Take time out to meditate, connect with your higher self and ask for guidance or a sign, and let nature and the universe confirm your decision.  Or run it through your body to see how it feels.  Check in with your solar plexus to gauge your gut instinct, then sit with the decision in your heart until you’re certain it’s a decision of based on self love.  This will ensure every decision, or at least the biggies, are best for your long term health and growth.

Then when you’re ninety, happily sitting back with your own bestie, you’ll know that even if some things didn’t work out as planned you always acted in your best interest.  You made decisions to nurture and care for yourself along the way, choosing that which would bring you most joy.

Give your story a happy ending by living life, trusting yourself and being your own bestie.